March 14, 2010

Few tips for increasing happiness in troubled waters:

Posted in Life tips at 3:24 pm by g3space

 

Daily life can be made happier. It is a matter of choice. It is our attitude that makes us feel happy or unhappy. It is true, we meet all kinds of situations during the day, and some of them may not be conductive to happiness. We can choose to keep thinking about the unhappy events, and we can choose to refuse to think about them, and instead, relish the happy moments. All of us constantly go through various situations and circumstances, but we do not have to let them influence our reactions and feelings.

1) Think of solutions, not problems.

2) Endeavor to change the way you look at things. Always look at the bright side. The mind may drag you to think about negativity and difficulties. Don’t let it. Look at the good and positive side of every situation.

3) Watch your thoughts. Whenever you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts, start thinking of pleasant things

4) Listen to relaxing, uplifting music.

5) Each day, devote some time to reading a few pages of an inspiring book or article.

6) Watch funny comedies that make you laugh.

7) Each day do something good for yourself. It can be something small, such buying a book, eating something you love, watching you favorite program on TV, going to a movie, or just having a stroll on the beach

8) Always look at what you have dona and not at what you haven’t.Sometimes you may begin the day with the desire to accomplish several objectives. At the end of the day you might feel frustrated and unhappy, because you haven’t been able to do all of those things.

Look at what you have done, not at what you have not been able to do. You may have accomplished a lot during the day, and yet you let yourself become frustrated, because of some small things that you did not accomplish. You have spent all day successfully carrying out many plans, and instead of feeling happy and satisfied, you look at what was not accomplished and feel unhappy. It is unfair toward yourself.

9) Each day do at least one-act to make others happy. This can be a kind word, helping your colleagues, stopping your car at the crossroad to let people cross, giving your seat in a bus to someone else, or giving a small present to someone you love. The possibilities are infinite. When you make someone happy, you become happy, and then people try to make you happy.

10) Associate with happy people, and try to learn from them to be happy. Remember, happiness is contagious

11) Do not envy people who are happy. On the contrary, be happy for their happiness.

12) Do your best to stay detached, when things do not proceed as intended and desired. Detachment will help you stay calm and control your moods and reactions. Detachment is not indifference. It is the acceptance of the good and the bad and staying balanced. Detachment has much to do with inner peace, and inner peace is conductive to happiness.

13) Smile more often.

14) Always expect happiness.

Top Tips to Achive Your Goals

Posted in Life tips, Uncategorized at 3:21 pm by g3space

1.Find out what is it that you want to achieve. Write a one-sentence definition of your goal. Work on this sentence until it is clear and to the point.

2.Read this sentence several times before falling asleep at night, and upon waking up in the morning.

3.Visualize your goal for some minutes, several times a day. In your mind’s eye see your goal as achieved.

4.Exercise your will power and self-discipline to keep your focus on the goal, and to stick to your resolve to succeed. Do not let anything distract you or make you deviate from your goal

5.Keep an expectant mood and with an open mind. This will help you become more attentive and aware of ideas and opportunities that will come your way, and which will help you achieve your goal.

6. Silence is power. Do not talk too much on what you want to achieve. Concentrate on doing, not on talking. Too much talking with others about your desires and goals dissipate your inner powers. Learn to concentrate and channel your energy toward achieving your goal.

7.Go on, even if there are obstacles on the way or you see no progress. Those who persevere succeed.

February 24, 2010

Different degrees of truthfulness

Posted in Life tips, Uncategorized at 3:41 pm by g3space

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And the reason for my confession is that I learn my lesson
And I really think you ought to know the truth
Because I lied and I cheated and I lied a little more
But after I did it I don’t know what I did it for
I admit that I have been a little immature

~Black Eyed Peas – Don’t lie~

I try to be as sincere as I can and I strongly believe that sincerity
is the key for solving most of humanity’s problems. If only Adam
hadn’t lied to God … or for the ones less religious, if only
politicians wouldn’t lie so much!

But there are too many complicated situations to tell only the truth.You have to be diplomat, not to hurt the people you love or to getthat raise that will allow you to buy a new shiny car. So we arrive to dr. House’s “Everybody lies” (you really should watch that show). Yes,but what’s the measure? When to tell the truth and when it’s safe to tell a lie? Another of my strong beliefs is that equilibrium brings us one step closer to happiness. In this case, it’s all about balance between truth and lie.

But you can’t say there’s only truth; there are big lies, lies, little
lies, joking, truth, the big truth.

So let’s start with big lies – when do they appear and when they canbe used? In very serious situations, let’s call them crisis scenarios,people tend to lie a lot. If you have a big financial problem you’re tempted to hide your situation. Same if you’re about to get a divorce or an suspention. Well, before taking a decision spend some time thinking – the lie will improve the present situation or will make it worse? Sure that if you have had bad luck you can find yourself with some important financial problems and if you’re going to admit this your situation will get worse, but the lie will have positive effects on long term too? Was it bad luck or you have a gambling problem? The most important thing, even when you’re lying to everyone else is to always be honest with yourself. If you’re in trouble, get some help!

Next step is lies. In my opinion this is the most dangerous stage of lying. If you think a bit you’ll remember that when you were a
teenager you used to lie to your parents. Sometimes it was necessary but generally … you did it because you were used to do it. Lying is addictive! If before saying a big lie you think a lot, in this stage the lies come naturally, almost as naturally as truth. There aren’tsituation when lying is beneficial, so avoid this stage!

Then there are little lies .. so sweet little lies! If you want to go
to a concert is safer to say to your parents that you’re going to
sleepover at a friend. If you want to get some extra money from your brothers’ pocket money it’s enough to compliment your parent. If you want to be alone just don’t answer the phone. In this category you find the omissions too. Generally, little lies are profitable but just don’t overdo it,
addiction is bad!

Why did I said that joking is a degree of honesty? Because it’s easier to say the truth when you’re joking. Let’s face it, you tell a lie when you want to gain something or when you’re to embarrassed to say the truth. Well, here’s the space for joking. When you’re sure that your friend will make a fool out of himself/herself wearing that clothes it’s easier to say joyfully “my my, but today isn’t a party at the office. why did you get dressed like this?” . You can always find something funnier, I think my humor’s muse isn’t here now. Well,saying it funnier will save you from a fight and it’s nicer than saying “you really don’t look good in that”.

And than there’s truth. I consider the truth the best stage of all. If
you have the guts to say it always you’re going to be appreciated for your qualities. Of course that not everybody can accept the truth but the most people will accept it and will love you for being sincere. In relationships is better to use the truth even if you or your significant other will be hurt. It will hurt less than the lies and that’s the only way to remain together.

The last stage is the big truth. That’s a little more special; it’s
not for everybody, but only for the people you care about. When you’re about to make some important decisions in your life, that is the moment to talk about big truths. You want to move away from to somewhere? You want to start a business? It’s the moment to talk it over with a good friend in order to make sure that you make the right decisions. The big truths are only about you and your important changes in your life. Pick someone special to talk and say it. You’ll feel a strange relief.

P.S. I’ve got the impression that I talked more about lies than about truth.(winK) I was honest though…

February 22, 2010

Things We Hate to Admit

Posted in Life tips, Uncategorized at 7:12 am by g3space

  

We are our worst enemy. We make mistakes, but struggle to admit them. In some cases we try to justify our bad actions and motives, only to have our self deception heighten our mistakes.

To grow and develop we need to develop the capacity for honesty and self evaluation. It is only when we can admit where we are going wrong that we can start to put things right.

The following are some common things many of us struggle to admit. Can you see yourself in any of these?

Other’s Faults are Our Own

It is easy to pick fault with other people. In fact, often we gain a subtle enjoyment from highlighting the faults of others. If we are truly honest, however, we will see that when we criticize other people we actually have the very same weakness ourselves. Perhaps we may not make this mistake quite as frequently or as badly, but we still share it to some extent.

A funny example is how frequently people will say things like, “X is such a terrible gossip, and she’s always negative and criticizing other people.” We say things like this; but ironically, we are doing exactly what we are criticizing them for! Another interesting point is that often people who grow to dislike each other are often very similar. The faults and personality traits we can’t stand in other people are often traits of our own personality. I’m sure you can think of two people who dislike each other, but share many similarities in habits and personalities.

We are Wrong

Why can we find it so difficult to admit that we are in the wrong? It is because we worry about our ego and what others think. But, when we avoid the truth we only compound the situation and make things worse. We appreciate people who can admit they are wrong and then resolve to avoid repeating the mistake.

We are responsible for what happens in our life

When things go wrong we are tempted to blame other people and external events beyond our control. We feel a helpless victim and use excuses to justify our unhappiness. External events can definitely make things difficult, but, ultimately what counts is how we respond and deal with situations. Two people can live through the same experience, but come through with a completely different outlook.

If we wait for outer circumstances to be favorable, we may be continually waiting. We need to learn how to make the most of our fate. If we can retain a positive outlook and aspire to overcome difficulties we will be able to improve our fate. Our thoughts and inner state of mind have the capacity to draw things into our life. If we expect problems we will inevitably generate them in some form. If we are open to attracting good experiences then they will also come.

We Don’t Really Know What Makes Us Happy

Everyone has a long list of things they would like; material wealth, the right job etc. But, when we attain our desire, the happiness is fleeting and is inevitably merely replaced by another desire. For good reason, George Bernard Shaw quipped:

“There are two tragedies in life, one is to not get our heart’s desire and other is to get it. “

Fulfillment of outer desires can, at best, give temporary happiness. True, inner happiness depends on developing inner peace not dependent on favorable occurrences in the outer world.

We are Drawn to the Negative

Our mind is instinctively drawn to negative viewpoints. We remember our mistakes, but forget our good deeds; we pick up on the faults of others, but remain blind to their good qualities. If we read a newspaper the world seems an endless stream of problems and injustice. However, this is only one perspective on life; we spend too long in a negative frame of mind and fail to see the bigger picture. There are always weeds in a garden, but we shouldn’t forget to appreciate the flowers and feel miserable for the number of weeds.

We Cannot Change Other People

We often feel that we will be able to change other people, especially those close to us. However, in practice, we cannot be responsible for others. Sometimes if we try to force change, it only makes things worse. It means we need to develop a detachment to other people. What we can do is seek to inspire, encourage and motivate them to do the right thing. We can offer support and concern, but, ultimately, it is only the other person who can change themselves.

Stress is Often of Our Own Making

In modern life it is very easy to feel excessively busy. We can easily create things to do, leading to stressful situations. Yet, many of these self appointed tasks are not as indispensable as our ego might like to admit. There is a temptation to add tasks without evaluating how essential they are. If we are determined to create time for ourselves we can do it.

February 21, 2010

How to Resolve Conflicts in Your Relationships

Posted in Life tips, Uncategorized at 6:10 am by g3space

 

 Every relationship in our life – friendships, family, romantic and professional – can potentially be destroyed by conflict. The solution is not to ignore the conflict or keep moving around hoping to find a set of perfect people. We need to deal with the problems we currently face; otherwise they will just reappear elsewhere.

To a large extent, the only thing we can change in relationships is ourself and our own attitude. We can’t expect to change other people, but we can learn to deal with relationships in a way that promotes harmony and diffuses conflict. Resolving conflicts in relationships is one of the most important life skills we can develop and it is something we need to value.

Seeing the Issue from the Other Person’s Perspective

If we have a difficult issue, it is important to see the problem from the other person’s perspective. This does not mean we have to agree with their viewpoint; it means we try to see the issue from a different perspective. This empathy can at least help us to understand where they are coming from, and why they have their particular mindset. If we can do this we may wish to moderate our stance because we understand why they are acting in a certain way. If we only look at things from our perspective, conflict will be much more likely to occur. For example, a parent dealing with difficult children should consider the perspective that children can have at that point in life.

Tolerance

A major cause of conflict in relationships is when we expect people to behave in a certain way. The problem with expecting certain behavior is that we get upset when they fail to live up to our expectations. Even those close to us are not our responsibility; we need to be tolerant of their mistakes and limitations. We have to respect their decisions on how to live their life. This detachment is not indifference; we shall retain concern and goodwill, but there comes a point where we need to give people the freedom to make their own choices – even if we don’t agree with them. This is especially true for parents who have an overbearing expectation of how their children will live their lives( now you may feel that I am somewhat against parents in all my ‘ exampling processes, double wink)

Dealing with Anger

Unfortunately, if we respond to situations by getting angry we will worsen the problem. Anger embodies a feeling of aggression and condemnation which people struggle to deal with it. Invariably it encourages people to respond in a similar way. If we feel angry, the best solution is to avoid talking / arguing at that particular time. We should calm our anger before confronting other people. Any conflict will only be exacerbated by anger. Similarly, if people approach us with anger, we have to respond in a different way – silence is better than getting mad at someone.

Value Harmony

To a large extent we get what we aspire for. If we really value harmony in our relationships with others, then we will make it happen. If we give greater important to proving ourselves right and our own ego, then there will be a constant feeling of superiority and inferiority which breeds conflict. If we keep reminding ourselves of the desirability of harmony we won’t allow ourselves to become bad tempered, argumentative, complaining, unreasonable and miserable; we will work hard to think of others.

Oneness

The real secret to maintaining good relationships is generating a feeling of oneness. This means we will feel happy at the success of others; we will sympathize when they experience difficulties; we will endeavor to avoid hurting their feelings. In oneness there is no superiority and inferiority. Without oneness, we are prone to feelings of pride, jealousy and insecurity. If you feel a really genuine sense of oneness with other people, how can you want to hurt them?

Insecurity and Inner Poise

When we are full of insecurities our relationships become more difficult. The problem is that if we are insecure about ourselves we can become judgmental about other people; to make ourselves feel better we will start criticizing others. We may not be conscious of this, but it does happen. When we are peace with ourselves, good relationships will be natural. When we have inner peace and poise, we don’t rely on other people to give us security and praise. When we are at peace with ourselves, we tend to have a sympathetic and positive view of the world. Often we want to blame bad relationships on other people; but, actually the only thing we can really do is to work on ourselves, if we develop inner peace and poise our relationships will definitely improve.

Talking

When tense situations arise, talking can be the most effective way of moving past the problem. Some things are best left unsaid; it is inadvisable to bring up old conflicts unless absolutely necessary. When talking we should try to converse on positive issues; look for things which we agree on and can work together on.

Perspective

Don’t get upset about little things. In the great cosmic game, most of the minor personality conflicts are relatively insignificant. If we get mad when someone doesn’t do the washing up, how are we going to react when they do something really bad? If you find yourself getting worked up by a series of small things, take a step back and try to evaluate their relative importance. For each minor failing, try to think of a really good quality of that person. If you are sincere you will feel that this good quality is far more important than the minor indiscretion.

 

Raising Problems

Although we don’t want to bring up old scores, sometimes it is important to make another person aware of the problems they are creating. If we feel someone else is constantly doing something wrong, we need to make them aware of their behaviour in a non confrontational way. Often people just aren’t aware of the problems they are creating and may actually appreciate being made aware of the problem. The best approach is to try and make them aware of how their actions cause pain to others; but, we need to try and do it in a way that doesn’t make them feel excessively guilty. Give them room and encouragement to make the necessary change.

No conflict is intractable. If we are willing to change our attitude we can develop harmony even with difficult people. It is always important to be positive and forget the past. If we can develop harmony in our relationships, it will definitely make a big difference to our life.

My experiences say so, so are the others I counseled, I talked with.

February 20, 2010

Emotions Do Rule Our Health

Posted in Life tips at 9:52 pm by g3space

When Christopher and Aleena died in an accident, their four children were grief-stricken. As the weeks passed, the three oldest, in their early twenties, coped with the sorrows by sharing memories and making a pact to honor their parents by excelling at college and in their chosen careers.

But Mary, a high school student, refused to take part in these family meetings. She was inconsolable, withdrawing into dark, private world. Two months after the accident she was rushed into hospital with an acute asthma attack.

In the intensive care ward, under the gentle prodding of her sister and two brothers, Mary revealed how much she had depended on her parent’s approval and encouragement. When they died she had felt a drift in a life without meaning. The other told Mary their pact and motivated her to get on with living. Soon after, the asthma remitted. Four years later Mary graduated from college at the top of her class.

Mary’s case is just among hundreds that documents the link between a person’s emotional state and disease. Most of psychosomatic diseases have it roots in emotional strain and it intensifies illness. As soon as their anxiety lefts, their health improves. In all such cases, we have only to give patient some breathing space.  

How did mental distress help bring on a disabling bodily disease? And why did Mary’s grief contribute to an asthma attack?

 Reason- emotional upset triggers a chain of events involving the brain and endocrine system. This neuro-endocrine responses affects all vital bodily processes and severe over- stimulation, however may have physical effects leading to disease.

Two patterns of reactions emerge, depending on the type of emotion.

1-Passive emotions such as grief and despair, with feelings of loss and failure, register in hippocampus, the part of brain that activates the body’s pituitary-adrenal-cortical network. Hormones like cortisol, needed for regulating of metabolism, are secreted in excess amount, if it occurs too often or too long, immune mechanism may be thrown out of order. Defenses against infections and tumors diminish. And auto -immune diseases are more likely to develop.

2- More aggressive emotions like anger and impatience, or a threat to one family, income or position, affect a different section of brain- the amygdale. (I am not quite sure about its spelling), which sets of the adrenal-medullary system. Medulla releases chemicals known as catecholamine (adrenaline is one). This increase heart rate, elevate blood pressure. And rise of free fatty acids in blood. Faced with challenge, our survival instincts prompt this response. But prolonged or repeated activation may lead to migraines, hypertension even coronary heart disease and stroke.

Everyone has setbacks in life; everyone experiences occasional losses or threats. Why do some people sail through such events, while others fall apart?  “.Effective coping involves a capacity to maintain psychological equilibrium without experiencing undue or prolonged neuro- endocrine arousal” (I learned it in a counseling class but forgot the name of the Dr who told it). “And this is enormously dependent on a person’s self –esteem and social assets, the ties that bind one to others.

Some patients have an attitude of denying this rigidly. Outwardly uncomplaining and friendly, such people shy away from life’s blows because they fear that they won’t be able to cope with them. But learning how to live with one’s emotions is important. Denying that they exist cause problems.

A sense of mastery over one’s destiny in an essential asset for good physical and emotional health. When feeling of helplessness or insignificance set in, the neuroendocrine system shifts into overdrive and disease may become far more likely.

Clearly, the behavioral doctors have helped put to rest the belief of many that life is a lottery, that disease strikes indiscriminately. What can you do to prevent your emotions from making you ill? “Learn to take care of your mind as well as your body” I would like to say. “Recognizing that emotions trigger physiological reactions- and vice versa- is half the battle. “The other half is knowing that the foundations of good health lie in love, laughter and faith in oneself. I learnt it from my life itself my dear friends”.

  • Name of patient and her family have been changed.

There is a safe way to Drink.

Posted in Life tips, Uncategorized at 8:07 pm by g3space

I have devoted some of my counseling life to the problems of alcohol and its abuse, so I have spent so much time trumpeting the fact that alcohol is a drug and that alcohol abuse is the most serious drug problem this nation faces. Nonetheless, I believe firmly that alcohol can do more good than harm, for there is a safe way to drink.

Now let me say some boring technical thing to let you know the stuff more clearly. Pharmacologically, alcohol is an anesthetic, not the stimulant. In modern amounts, it appears to stimulate, because it inhibits those brain centers which restrict “less civilized” outbursts, as well as those which make us aware of exhaustion. Then we feel physically abler and emotionally freer. But with increasing doses alcohol put to sleep the brain centers which affect judgment, knowledge and social controls. Sufficient dosage can put us to sleep for keeps, by anaesthetizing those centers which control breathing and heartbeat. (What all theorems I mugged up. Oh my god )

Responsible people, therefore, must choose rather carefully the time, place and circumstances of drinking.  Obviously if you are engaged in some complex mental and physical activities- writing ( nopes I don’t want to state it deliberately), driving, business- it is scarcely appropriate to be under the influence of an anesthetic drug. On the other hand if you are going to be sharing a meal, or some other human interchange (hey don’t misinterpret), in a relaxed way, alcohol can be rewarding adjunct to the experience. – A true servant of man.

An essential point is that there is known safe level of drinking. for me , now is the time to make you faint by pointing some stats, researchers all over the world are independently using the same level to define safe or moderate drinking: 1 ½ ounces of pure alcohol per day-the equivalent of three one- ounce drinks of hundred- proof whisky( which is 50 % alcohol),four eight- ounce glasses of beer( oh no , now am sick of this ounces as I am not getting it properly,)or half a bottle of wine( voila it is certainly a good news for a wine lover like me, glup gulp, ). This limit, of course, is only a statistical average. For some people even one drop of alcohol is too much.  Nor do findings permit saving up one day’s ration in order to drink next day( no smart game plz) At no time a individual wishing to remain within safe limits consume more than 1 ½ ounces of pure alcohol in a single day.

Studies show that the driver who has consumed an amount of alcohol within this limit is no more likely to have an automobile accident than the driver who does not take any alcohol. But beyond this limit, when the blood- alcohol level begins to creep over the .05 percent sober level, the risk of a traffic accident jumps enormously .By the time the blood-alcohol level reaches 0.2 % – the level of most drunk drivers who are arrested- the risk of accident is 100 times that that of the non- drinking driver.

More safer ways in drinking-

  • Manner of drinking is crucial. One should always sip slowly.(reason- alcohol is a highly unusual food stuff in that at least 20% of it is absorbed directly from the stomach into the blood stream without going through any digestive process. Therefore gulping it produces a sudden marked rising blood and hence in the brain.
  • Another rule of safe drinking is that food in the stomach, preferably protein or fatty products. Any experienced drinkers knows, the same dose taken either provide a more pleasant outcome than alcohol on an empty stomach (nay good readers never misunderstand authors intention, I know).
  • A number of other factors also influence our response to a drink. It’s best not to take alcohol when physically and mentally upset, lonely or in need of solace. It is true that alcohol’s anesthetic effect will dull the pain of loneliness. But alcohol is no substitute for another person. In other words don’t drink alone.

It’s also best to drink in a relaxed setting. Regardless of where and how do you drink, what you expect from alcohol is what you get. As with almost all drugs expectation is strongly related to outcome. If you are part of a group that wants to act drunk, even with small doses you’ll feel drunk.

So if you drink. Drink safe

7 Ways to Overcome the Fear of Failure

Posted in Life tips, Uncategorized at 12:29 pm by g3space

The fear of failure is perhaps the strongest force holding people below their potential. In a world full of uncertainty, a delicate economy, and countless misfortunes that could happen to anyone, it’s easy to see why most people are inclined to play it safe.

But playing it safe has risk as well. If you never dare to fail your success will have a low ceiling. Most people underestimate their merit and ability to recover from failure, leading them to pass up valuable opportunities. The ability to fail big and fail often has been a mark of the spectacularly successful throughout history.

The following strategies will help you put risk and reward in perspective so you can overcome the fear of failure.

1. Consider the cost of missed opportunities – The biggest risk that people fail to consider is the benefit they lose by avoiding high risk/high reward opportunities. In his guide to career planning,Netscape founder Marc Andersen compares a well-managed career to a diversified portfolio. The ideal career contains a wide range of job opportunities (some risky, some safe) that combine to form a relatively safe career with a high potential for growth.( it was one of the point I had considered before joining mass communication, and it realyy worked) and Taking high
risk opportunities is essential because they offer the greatest reward:

The issue is that without taking risk, you can’t exploit any
opportunities. You can live a quiet and reasonably happy life, but you are unlikely to create something new, and you are unlikely to make your mark on the world.

2. Research the alternatives – The unknown is a major source of fear.When you don’t know what you’re dealing with, potential consequences seem far worse than they actually are. Take the power out fear by understanding it. Research all the potential outcomes (both good and bad) so you genuinely understand the risk of failure and benefits of success. Analyzing these outcomes will help you see through the fear of failure and make a logical decision.

3. Put the worst-case scenario in perspective – One of the most powerful questions posed by Tim Ferris in the 4-Hour Workweek is: If you chase your dreams and fall flat on your face, worst-case scenario, how long will it take you to recover? The answer is probably less than
you expect. How hard would it really be to find another job? Chances are you could recover completely in a few months. Is the fear of a few rough months strong enough to keep you in a mediocre situation indefinitely?
think buddy think…
4. Understand the benefits of failure – As Emerson said, life is a series of experiments, the more you make the better. Each failure is a trial in an experiment and an opportunity for growth. Even if a failure costs you financially, the educational benefits can far outweigh the loss. Working for a startup instead of a big company is
considered risky, but according Paul Graham, “Managers at big companies prefer to hire someone who’d tried to start a startup and failed over someone who’d spent the same time working at a big company.” Maybe that experience at a big company  ( let manage gurus fume their head in it)

5. Make a contingency plan – Another way to overcome the fear of failure is to reduce the downside. Hedge your risk by creating a contingency plan. Even if your first option fails, you can maintain the status quo with a solid backup plan. Daring to fail doesn’t mean you have to risk losing it all. If you manage risk intelligently, you can capture the benefits of high risk opportunities while leaving
yourself a safety net.

6. Take action – The best way to reduce fear and build confidence is taking action. As soon as you do, you’ll begin accumulating experience and knowledge. Everything is hardest the first time. It’s like jumping
off a cliff into a lake — after you do it once, you see that the water is safe and each time afterwards is easy. Start off with small steps and build up your confidence until the fear of failure is manageable.

7. Burn the boats – When ancient Greek armies traveled across the sea to do battle, the first thing they would do after landing was to burn the boats, leaving them stranded. With no way to make it home besides
victory, the resolve of the soldiers was strengthened. When success and failure are the only options, you have no choice but to follow through.

If you have a goal, but are afraid to commit, force yourself into action by burning the boats. Register for an exam in advance if you want to go back to school. Set a deadline to move to a new city without signing a lease. Fear of failure disappears when you realize
it can’t save you.