February 20, 2010

How to Relax

Posted in Uncategorized at 1:01 pm by g3space


Most of us, in practically all our daily activities are driving with brake on. And my dear friends, that brake is nothing but unconscious tension. We have worked and played in a tense condition for so long that we regard  it as more or less normal(sigh). We do not notice the Clenched jaw, The constricted jaw n usual ‘Grrrrz’, Yet the resulted fatigue burns up our energy, impairs our talents and even dulls our appreciation of the world about us (deeep sigh)

You know how they define tension (our renowned psychologists), tension is excess effort: trying too hard to do things that should automatically. It jams muscles to jam and contract. Make a conscious effort to speak correctly and you become tongue tied. Let the accomplished pianist think about his fingers and he is likely to be a mistake.

Most of us put forth too much effort for the task at hand. Our muscles work better when we speak our orders quietly than when we shout at them. In order to think perfectly, for example eyes must make numerous minute movements, scanning the object under observation. This scanning is an automatic reflex; it is no more subject to your will than your heartbeat. But when you stare – make a conscious effort to see- the eyes become tense. They do not scan as they should and sight suffers.

Nor is the damage done by tension limited to the body. When muscles are tense, contracting without purpose a feeling of confusion is relayed back to the brain. Why is that a poised man whose ideas reel out effortlessly when he is in his own studies finds his mind blank when he is attending an important board meeting?

Because tenseness, resulting from too much effort, has jamming his psychomotor mechanisms.

Tension tends to become an unconscious habit; muscles tend to stay constricted. How then can you become conscious or unconscious tension? How can you relax?

Here come Expert’s tips-

First- locate the tension in your muscles. Ex- wrinkling forehead. Practice sensing the tension that thus tensions you consciously produces. Then tomorrow, stop working for a moment and ask yourself, “am I aware of any tension in my forehead?” You can probably detect a faint sensation already there. One friend told me “when I started to relax, I discovered layer after layer of tension of which I had been totally unaware of”

Once you learn to recognize tension, you can learn to relax. Try to relax your muscles, for they are closely associated with anxiety and confusion. With the brow relaxed it is practically impossible to feel worried. The next time you have a problem to solve, make it a point to keep brow relaxed , unclench your jaws, and stop gritting your teeth( your expression of tension) and if the problem does not seem less difficult.

Because when your muscles get tensed, your brain , which is constantly receiving nerve messages from your muscles, reasons something like this: “ we must be in difficulty, we must have a terrible job to do”. Then you become conscious of feeling a pressure. As soon as you relax your muscles, however your brain says “Ah, we are out of difficulty now” and you get a feeling of consciousness. So, every time you feel anxious or experiencing self-doubt, notice that you are contracting jaws. Then STOP.

 Learn to relax your hand when you find yourself in a tight sport or when something irritates you. It will take pressure off and give you a feeling that you are master of the situation.

Learn to break the circle. So check your key points for tension: brow, abdomen, jaw, hands, and so on. Tighten each, and then let it go, allowing the muscles to relax by itself.

More tips-

Take deep breaths. Breath furnishes a valuable control of toning down the degree of excitement throughout the entire body.  When we are emotionally tense, we say we have something on our chest. When a crisis is past, we say that we can breathe easier. But it works both ways. If we can learn to breathe easier in the first place, we won’t get so tense. After a time you will find that it is an effort to keep breathing fast and a relief to let yourself breathe more slowly.

One of the most malicious causes of tension is HURRY. You can hurry while sitting down, apparently doing nothing, or while waiting for a bus. Many people feel hurried because they think there just isn’t enough time. They would do well to heed Sir William Osler‘s advice to his students when he told them to think of how much time there is to use, rather than of how little. Whenever you feel a sense of hurry, deliberately slow down.

A basic cause of tension is putting too much emphasis on the ultimate goal, trying too hard to win. It is good to have a clear mental picture of your objective; but your attention should be concentrated on the specific job at hand.

And when that job is done, remember there will be something else to do tomorrow. So relax! Life is not a hundred yard dash, but more in the nature of a cross country run. And no one can sprint all the time.



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